Tuesday, 29 December 2015

Stress and how I deal with it

Hi everyone

I've entitled this post 'Stress and how I deal with it' but I surpose the reality of stress is that you never really 'deal' with it. It gets better and it gets worse, things come and go in your life that cause you more or less stress and everyone is individual. So my aim with this post is just to hopefully give you a some inspiration on what I do when I get stressed or hit a stressful patch.

I write this having come through a particularly stressful patch at work so a lot of what I wrote had work in mind but I hope this will help you in any situation causing you stress. So here goes....

1. Think through the stress
This proberley sounds a little strange as most advice tells you to put it at the back of your mind. This doesnt work for me, what I do is allow myself a certain amount of time to think through the situation and think why I'm stressed and I feel this helps me understand the stress.

An example of this would be:

The situation - 'I'm applying for a new job which means I will have to go through an interview and I'm worried that I will not be able to answer the questions they ask me'

Why does this create stress - 'I might embarrass myself in front of people, they might think I can't do the job, I might freeze up in the interview'.

I feel this then allows me to address the stress and the reason for it, they don't go away but for me they are sorted and listed and they stop endless circling my head.

2. Home is where the heart is 
I often find when I stressed that it helps to remind myself of all the things that won't change if I don't get the outcome I want from the stressful situation.

For me these are things such as

'even if I don't get this jobs my dog will great me at the door with love and squeaky toys'

'If I embarrass myself in the interview I will still have my friends to go out with on Saturday night and they can help me laugh off my embarrassing situation'

'if I freeze in the interview I will still come home and eat dinner on my sofa and watch my TV and cuddle my boyfriend and get into my own bed'

It might sounds a bit basic but I surpose it's a long winded way of saying what's the worse that can happen.

3. Watch a film or read a book unrelated to your situation
For me this is Twilight, Benidorm or Harry Potter. There's plenty of stressful situations for the characters but seen as I've never had a vampire and werewolf fight over me I certainly doesn't remind me of my own situations.

4. Watch YouTube
As I've said before I watch a lot of beauty channels and I love the fact that they are so positive and upbeat so they are a good retreat to make you smile. 

5. If all else fails light a candle and make a cup of tea
English breakfast, green tea, camomile, honey and lemon whatever you fancy, light a candle, make a tea and it gives you 5 minutes to take time out and relax.



Thanks for reading, I hope you have enjoyed this and it helps you relax.

AKL